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Cover It Up

No one wants to see it

by Published: Oct 31, 2012

Would you wear that if your par­ents came to visit? What about your grandparents?

Sometimes I won­der if peo­ple look in the mir­ror after they get dressed in the morn­ing. I don’t know what it is about this year, but I con­tinue to see girls in short skirts and low cut shirts walk­ing to class. I’m talk­ing some­thing you would see a drunk girl wear­ing on Friday night com­ing back from a “crazy party.”

This year I have seen so much worse than I have in the last three years. If that’s the way many girls choose to present them­selves in an every­day sit­u­a­tion, I can’t even imag­ine what Halloween will look like.

I get it. We’re in col­lege, and Halloween has turned into this big hol­i­day that gives girls an excuse to dress provoca­tively, one where they can wear prac­ti­cally noth­ing and get away with it. Halloween gives guys the excuse to stare inappropriately.

Girls dress like this and then won­der why guys don’t act like gen­tle­men. If this is you, maybe you should start dress­ing and act­ing like a lady with some class.

The last few weeks I have seen count­less thin girls diet­ing and hardly eat­ing because they want to look sexy in their Halloween cos­tume. Whether it be a bad cop or an inno­cent school girl, the cos­tume involves prac­ti­cally noth­ing and the chance of being bloated on Halloween is one that isn’t going to happen.

You’ve all seen it. And if you haven’t, you will this year. A group of girls walk­ing in weather that is close to freez­ing, wear­ing just enough to cover those places that are “nec­es­sary” to cover. High-heeled boots that took weeks to find and fish­net leg­gings com­plete the look of the out­fit. Going for sexy? I think it looks trashy.

What is really the point of dress­ing like this? Many girls will say they do it to look good or feel con­fi­dent or show that one guy what he’s miss­ing. But it’s hard for me to fathom the fact they don’t under­stand the type of atten­tion they’re attracting—it’s not good attention.

You may have the guy drool­ing over you. But if you have to dress like that to get his atten­tion in the first place, there is some­thing seri­ously wrong with the situation.

You may meet some guy, dance with him all night long and then end up drunk in a room behind closed doors with him. You wake up in the morn­ing to unfa­mil­iar walls and a bed you’ve never seen before.

You walk back home wear­ing your cos­tume that allowed you to get to that point. What was his name again? You can’t remem­ber, and it doesn’t mat­ter any­ways because you regret the whole thing.

You’ll look for sym­pa­thy from your friends because you had a lapse of judg­ment and he took it too far.

But hon­estly, did you ask for it? By putting on that cos­tume that cov­ered prac­ti­cally noth­ing, did you hon­estly not expect to get atten­tion from the guys who are look­ing for a good time?

Next time you’re decid­ing what to wear on Halloween, to the party on Friday night or even to biol­ogy class, think about the mes­sages you’re try­ing to send.

If you just want to be another tally on a ran­dom guy’s head­board, keep dress­ing like it.

 
 
  • Jessica Spencer

    I found this arti­cle to be rather degrad­ing on many dif­fer­ent lev­els. The arti­cle is stereo­typ­ing all women in a very derog­a­tive way. Women have the free­dom to express them­selves whether that is expressed through speech or the items of cloth­ing that they choose to wear. Regardless if it is Halloween, or not, NO women goes out at night hop­ing to get taken advan­tage of or sex­u­ally assaulted. This arti­cle places the direct blame on the vic­tim rather than on the per­pe­tra­tor, and gives the per­pe­tra­tor the idea that the CRIME they just com­mit­ted was okay. Sexual assault is NOT the victim’s fault rather you believe they dressed up “trashy” or not. Sexual assault can hap­pen to any­one regard­less of what they chose to wear and regard­less of what hol­i­day or day of the year that it hap­pens to be. Think about what mes­sage that you are send­ing to men across cam­pus as you had this arti­cle pub­lished. Do you think that you sent out a pos­i­tive mes­sage? NO! You basi­cally have pub­lished in the school news­pa­per that it is okay to call girls “trash” and that stereo­typ­ing is okay. You have given per­pe­tra­tors the sense that girls are ask­ing to be taken advan­tage of and that just because they chose to show more skin than you they are look­ing to go home with some­one. Everyone comes from dif­fer­ent back­grounds and everyone’s fam­i­lies believe dif­fer­ent lengths, types, and styles of cloth­ing are okay to wear. What my fam­ily might deem as accept­able could be com­pletely dif­fer­ent from the girl sit­ting next to me in biol­ogy class. Just because we come from dif­fer­ent back­grounds doesn’t make your style of cloth­ing more accept­able than mine, or mine more accept­able than yours. Men get the idea that it is okay to call women “sluts”, “trashy”, “whores” and etc. because of what we call each other. If we want men to stop call­ing us that then don’t you think that we should have more “class” than to call other women that? Most impor­tantly don’t you think that as women we should stick together and help stop sex­ual assault and place the blame on the per­pe­tra­tors instead of telling the vic­tims that it is their fault? This arti­cle is absolutely appalling and the fact that so many women that could have been a vic­tim of sex­ual assault or even domes­tic vio­lence have read that arti­cle makes me sick to my stom­ach. Sexual Assault is NOT the vic­tims fault! The perpetrator’s NEED to be held account­able for their crime.
    –Jessica Spencer

  • Jessica Spencer

    I found this arti­cle to be rather degrad­ing on many dif­fer­ent lev­els. The arti­cle is stereo­typ­ing all women in a very derog­a­tive way. Women have the free­dom to express them­selves whether that is expressed through speech or the items of cloth­ing that they choose to wear. Regardless if it is Halloween, or not, NO women goes out at night hop­ing to get taken advan­tage of or sex­u­ally assaulted. This arti­cle places the direct blame on the vic­tim rather than on the per­pe­tra­tor, and gives the per­pe­tra­tor the idea that the CRIME they just com­mit­ted was okay. Sexual assault is NOT the victim’s fault rather you believe they dressed up “trashy” or not. Sexual assault can hap­pen to any­one regard­less of what they chose to wear and regard­less of what hol­i­day or day of the year that it hap­pens to be. Think about what mes­sage that you are send­ing to men across cam­pus as you had this arti­cle pub­lished. Do you think that you sent out a pos­i­tive mes­sage? NO! You basi­cally have pub­lished in the school news­pa­per that it is okay to call girls “trash” and that stereo­typ­ing is okay. You have given per­pe­tra­tors the sense that girls are ask­ing to be taken advan­tage of and that just because they chose to show more skin than you they are look­ing to go home with some­one. Everyone comes from dif­fer­ent back­grounds and everyone’s fam­i­lies believe dif­fer­ent lengths, types, and styles of cloth­ing are okay to wear. What my fam­ily might deem as accept­able could be com­pletely dif­fer­ent from the girl sit­ting next to me in biol­ogy class. Just because we come from dif­fer­ent back­grounds doesn’t make your style of cloth­ing more accept­able than mine, or mine more accept­able than yours. Men get the idea that it is okay to call women “sluts”, “trashy”, “whores” and etc. because of what we call each other. If we want men to stop call­ing us that then don’t you think that we should have more “class” than to call other women that? Most impor­tantly don’t you think that as women we should stick together and help stop sex­ual assault and place the blame on the per­pe­tra­tors instead of telling the vic­tims that it is their fault? This arti­cle is absolutely appalling and the fact that so many women that could have been a vic­tim of sex­ual assault or even domes­tic vio­lence have read that arti­cle makes me sick to my stom­ach. Sexual Assault is NOT the vic­tims fault! The perpetrator’s NEED to be held account­able for their crime.
    –Jessica Spencer

  • Jessica Spencer

    I found this arti­cle to be rather degrad­ing on many dif­fer­ent lev­els. The arti­cle is stereo­typ­ing all women in a very derog­a­tive way. Women have the free­dom to express them­selves whether that is expressed through speech or the items of cloth­ing that they choose to wear. Regardless if it is Halloween, or not, NO women goes out at night hop­ing to get taken advan­tage of or sex­u­ally assaulted. This arti­cle places the direct blame on the vic­tim rather than on the per­pe­tra­tor, and gives the per­pe­tra­tor the idea that the CRIME they just com­mit­ted was okay. Sexual assault is NOT the victim’s fault rather you believe they dressed up “trashy” or not. Sexual assault can hap­pen to any­one regard­less of what they chose to wear and regard­less of what hol­i­day or day of the year that it hap­pens to be. Think about what mes­sage that you are send­ing to men across cam­pus as you had this arti­cle pub­lished. Do you think that you sent out a pos­i­tive mes­sage? NO! You basi­cally have pub­lished in the school news­pa­per that it is okay to call girls “trash” and that stereo­typ­ing is okay. You have given per­pe­tra­tors the sense that girls are ask­ing to be taken advan­tage of and that just because they chose to show more skin than you they are look­ing to go home with some­one. Everyone comes from dif­fer­ent back­grounds and everyone’s fam­i­lies believe dif­fer­ent lengths, types, and styles of cloth­ing are okay to wear. What my fam­ily might deem as accept­able could be com­pletely dif­fer­ent from the girl sit­ting next to me in biol­ogy class. Just because we come from dif­fer­ent back­grounds doesn’t make your style of cloth­ing more accept­able than mine, or mine more accept­able than yours. Men get the idea that it is okay to call women “sluts”, “trashy”, “whores” and etc. because of what we call each other. If we want men to stop call­ing us that then don’t you think that we should have more “class” than to call other women that? Most impor­tantly don’t you think that as women we should stick together and help stop sex­ual assault and place the blame on the per­pe­tra­tors instead of telling the vic­tims that it is their fault? This arti­cle is absolutely appalling and the fact that so many women that could have been a vic­tim of sex­ual assault or even domes­tic vio­lence have read that arti­cle makes me sick to my stom­ach. Sexual Assault is NOT the vic­tims fault! The perpetrator’s NEED to be held account­able for their crime.
    –Jessica Spencer

  • Jessica Spencer

    I found this arti­cle to be rather degrad­ing on many dif­fer­ent lev­els. The arti­cle is stereo­typ­ing all women in a very derog­a­tive way. Women have the free­dom to express them­selves whether that is expressed through speech or the items of cloth­ing that they choose to wear. Regardless if it is Halloween, or not, NO women goes out at night hop­ing to get taken advan­tage of or sex­u­ally assaulted. This arti­cle places the direct blame on the vic­tim rather than on the per­pe­tra­tor, and gives the per­pe­tra­tor the idea that the CRIME they just com­mit­ted was okay. Sexual assault is NOT the victim’s fault rather you believe they dressed up “trashy” or not. Sexual assault can hap­pen to any­one regard­less of what they chose to wear and regard­less of what hol­i­day or day of the year that it hap­pens to be. Think about what mes­sage that you are send­ing to men across cam­pus as you had this arti­cle pub­lished. Do you think that you sent out a pos­i­tive mes­sage? NO! You basi­cally have pub­lished in the school news­pa­per that it is okay to call girls “trash” and that stereo­typ­ing is okay. You have given per­pe­tra­tors the sense that girls are ask­ing to be taken advan­tage of and that just because they chose to show more skin than you they are look­ing to go home with some­one. Everyone comes from dif­fer­ent back­grounds and everyone’s fam­i­lies believe dif­fer­ent lengths, types, and styles of cloth­ing are okay to wear. What my fam­ily might deem as accept­able could be com­pletely dif­fer­ent from the girl sit­ting next to me in biol­ogy class. Just because we come from dif­fer­ent back­grounds doesn’t make your style of cloth­ing more accept­able than mine, or mine more accept­able than yours. Men get the idea that it is okay to call women “sluts”, “trashy”, “whores” and etc. because of what we call each other. If we want men to stop call­ing us that then don’t you think that we should have more “class” than to call other women that? Most impor­tantly don’t you think that as women we should stick together and help stop sex­ual assault and place the blame on the per­pe­tra­tors instead of telling the vic­tims that it is their fault? This arti­cle is absolutely appalling and the fact that so many women that could have been a vic­tim of sex­ual assault or even domes­tic vio­lence have read that arti­cle makes me sick to my stom­ach. Sexual Assault is NOT the vic­tims fault! The perpetrator’s NEED to be held account­able for their crime.
    –Jessica Spencer

    • Dan

      There was no men­tion of sex­ual assault at all, if a girl get’s wasted and sleeps with a guy there is no sex­ual assault, your way off base on your argu­ment here.

      • Anonymous

        “You’ll look for sym­pa­thy from your friends because you had a lapse of judg­ment and he took it too far.” I think the “he took it too far” implies non-consensual sex” and regard­less of the con­tent of the arti­cle, Jessica Spencer is right… if a girl goes out dressed provoca­tively it doesn’t mean she’s “ask­ing for it” and it doesn’t mean shes the type of girl who is going to get drunk and go home with some­body. The girls who get drunk and hook up will do this no mat­ter what they’re wear­ing.. and if that’s what they want to do then… so what? It’s her body, it’s her choice. But say­ing that a girl is going to get taken advan­tage of or a guy is going to “take it took far” just because of her out­fit is ridiculous

      • wow

        Its appar­ent that you don’t under­stand what sex­ual assault is. Even if he/she is drunk, it can be sex­ual assault. I find it to be a rather dull, skewed view. You paint the men to be help­less vic­tims who are forced to drool over a woman because she’s wear­ing skimpy clothes. Let’s talk about a man hav­ing some “class”. If you didn’t want to sleep with her when she’s wear­ing nor­mal clothes, don’t sleep with her when she’s wear­ing skimpy clothes. Maybe men shouldn’t par­take in allow­ing this cycle to be appro­pri­ate by choos­ing to not sleep with any­one who presents an opportunity.

        Either way, this arti­cle goes to show how igno­rant some peo­ple can be and how easy it is to point fin­gers at every­one but your­self. Talk about “being classy”…

        • Dan

          It’s pretty sim­ple then don’t go back to a guy’s room, i guess i didn’t real­ize all those times i was sex­u­ally assaulted by women who take advan­tage of me when i was drunk. Not in all cases but women tend to throw words out like sex­ual assault or rape to cover up the fact that they had sex with a guy that they chose to leave with from the bar, because they are totally not a slut so they must have been raped. Now what hap­pened on cam­pus to that girl that is sex­ual assault, not women who choose to go home with someone

  • Jessica Newton

    This arti­cle is uncalled for. Do you real­ize that YOU are stereo­typ­ing EVERY WOMAN on cam­pus? Not every woman on cam­pus dresses like a “slut”, “trashy”, or “who­r­ish”. Not only that, we don’t dress or go out to be sex­u­ally assaulted. You are imply­ing like its what all the women on cam­pus do. They don’t wear signs that say, “Hey come assault me because I am wear­ing promis­cu­ous cloth­ing.”. Girls dress the way they do because it makes them feel unique. Just because its Halloween, and girls wear reveal­ing cloth­ing, doesn’t mean they are “sluts”, “trashy”, and “whores”. So good job, you just let all the sex­ual assaulters/offenders know that its okay to do what they do to girls and get away with it because of how they dress. What does that say for the poor girl that just got assaulted on cam­pus not too long ago and the offender got away with it? She didn’t choose to get assaulted. Maybe you should take into con­sid­er­a­tion of how oth­ers feel before you write an arti­cle imply­ing that all women dress like “sluts” and that its okay for them to be assaulted. Your mes­sage is degrad­ing, and you clearly need some insight on what the real issue is.

  • wow

    To the author,
    I think you would ben­e­fit from tak­ing an edu­ca­tional course on sex­ual assault/sexual har­rass­ment. Also, you may want to take a class on how to express your opin­ion “with class”. This dis­played the level of igno­rance some peo­ple have towards judg­ing some­one else. This arti­cle could only be com­pared to “cyber bul­ly­ing”, if you wanted to be affec­tive or make a dif­fer­ence maybe you should try a proactive/positive approach instead of being degrad­ing, myopic, and obtuse. Just a sug­ges­tion. To make a com­par­i­son in the lan­guage you used: your arti­cle is trashier than the peo­ple you think are being trashy. It was class­less in and of itself.

  • Caleb Archambault

    Obliviously, Jessica, you decided not to use your brain when read­ing the arti­cle. In no way did this arti­cle con­demn the vic­tim of sex­ual assault. I see that your lower level of intel­li­gence can’t seem to under­stand the dif­fer­ence between a regret­table sex­ual sit­u­a­tion and sex­ual assault. You also assume that a sex­ual assault occurred in the writ­ing, the author never says that a sex­ual encounter occurred just that the per­son woke up in a unfa­mil­iar place and regret­ted their actions. The arti­cle was a endeavor to show that women need to think about what they decide to wear out into pub­lic places. As to your famil­ial dif­fer­ence in dress code exam­ple, regard­less of your fam­ily back­ground, there is a socially accepted man­ner of dress and any mem­ber of soci­ety whether male or female that breaks this dress code will be looked down upon.

  • Caleb Archambault

    Obliviously, Jessica, you decided not to use your brain when read­ing the arti­cle. In no way did this arti­cle con­demn the vic­tim of sex­ual assault. I see that your lower level of intel­li­gence can’t seem to under­stand the dif­fer­ence between a regret­table sex­ual sit­u­a­tion and sex­ual assault. You also assume that a sex­ual assault occurred in the writ­ing, the author never says that a sex­ual encounter occurred just that the per­son woke up in a unfa­mil­iar place and regret­ted their actions. The arti­cle was a endeavor to show that women need to think about what they decide to wear out into pub­lic places. As to your famil­ial dif­fer­ence in dress code exam­ple, regard­less of your fam­ily back­ground, there is a socially accepted man­ner of dress and any mem­ber of soci­ety whether male or female that breaks this dress code will be looked down upon.

  • Caleb Archambault

    Obliviously, Jessica, you decided not to use your brain when read­ing the arti­cle. In no way did this arti­cle con­demn the vic­tim of sex­ual assault. I see that your lower level of intel­li­gence can’t seem to under­stand the dif­fer­ence between a regret­table sex­ual sit­u­a­tion and sex­ual assault. You also assume that a sex­ual assault occurred in the writ­ing, the author never says that a sex­ual encounter occurred just that the per­son woke up in a unfa­mil­iar place and regret­ted their actions. The arti­cle was a endeavor to show that women need to think about what they decide to wear out into pub­lic places. As to your famil­ial dif­fer­ence in dress code exam­ple, regard­less of your fam­ily back­ground, there is a socially accepted man­ner of dress and any mem­ber of soci­ety whether male or female that breaks this dress code will be looked down upon.

  • Caleb Archambault

    Obliviously, Jessica, you decided not to use your brain when read­ing the arti­cle. In no way did this arti­cle con­demn the vic­tim of sex­ual assault. I see that your lower level of intel­li­gence can’t seem to under­stand the dif­fer­ence between a regret­table sex­ual sit­u­a­tion and sex­ual assault. You also assume that a sex­ual assault occurred in the writ­ing, the author never says that a sex­ual encounter occurred just that the per­son woke up in a unfa­mil­iar place and regret­ted their actions. The arti­cle was a endeavor to show that women need to think about what they decide to wear out into pub­lic places. As to your famil­ial dif­fer­ence in dress code exam­ple, regard­less of your fam­ily back­ground, there is a socially accepted man­ner of dress and any mem­ber of soci­ety whether male or female that breaks this dress code will be looked down upon.

  • Caleb Archambault

    Obliviously, Jessica, you decided not to use your brain when read­ing the arti­cle. In no way did this arti­cle con­demn the vic­tim of sex­ual assault. I see that your lower level of intel­li­gence can’t seem to under­stand the dif­fer­ence between a regret­table sex­ual sit­u­a­tion and sex­ual assault. You also assume that a sex­ual assault occurred in the writ­ing, the author never says that a sex­ual encounter occurred just that the per­son woke up in a unfa­mil­iar place and regret­ted their actions. The arti­cle was a endeavor to show that women need to think about what they decide to wear out into pub­lic places. As to your famil­ial dif­fer­ence in dress code exam­ple, regard­less of your fam­ily back­ground, there is a socially accepted man­ner of dress and any mem­ber of soci­ety whether male or female that breaks this dress code will be looked down upon.

    • wow

      T1. You have no stan­dard to say that there is a “lower level of intel­li­gence”. Degrading some­one else to get your point across? In many ways this indi­cates an inabil­ity to effec­tively com­mu­ni­cate in a socially accept­able man­ner. Its obvi­ous that the arti­cle attempted to address that peo­ple should increase their “dress­ing stan­dard”; how­ever, the arti­cle was essen­tially class­less as was your degrad­ing com­ment regard­ing intel­li­gence level. That type of ‘insult­ing behav­ior’ is com­mon in chil­drend, but not socially accept­able for adults.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1262430091 Kristian Campbell

    And this is why I love America. Women can wear what­ever they please to a cer­tain extent, and cit­i­zens can speak their mind. If you don’t like how some women dress, and it is some not every woman has the con­fi­dence to dress as a “bad cop or an inno­cent school girl” nor do they have the desire to, then go move to some coun­tries in the Middle East where every woman must be com­pletely cov­ered and can only show their eyes, no woman is allowed to leave home with­out the com­pany of a man. No? Doesn’t sound appeal­ing to you? Then learn appre­ci­ate the free­doms that are given to you.

  • Torch Member

    Thank you for the feed­back. However, I just want to clar­ify that this is not a news arti­cle, it is an opin­ion col­umn; this is the writer’s opin­ion and not a hard news arti­cle. Feel free to send a let­ter to the edi­tor in chief if you would have any thoughts you would like to share. Thank you.

    • Torch Member

      if you have any thoughts you would like to share.*

  • Paula

    The mes­sage of this OPINIONS (can’t stress that enough) piece is sim­ple: Girls all over cam­pus need to stop dress­ing like it’s still sum­mer because it’s November now and snow is just around the cor­ner. Just because it’s a Friday night does not mean it’s okay to wear short, skimpy dresses. Stay warm and classy.

  • Aly

    I actu­ally hap­pen to think that the arti­cle was genious! And I am enti­tled to that OPINION. And it was also a real­ity check for those who are choos­ing to dress in that man­ner and give off cer­tain stereo­types. The author did a great job on address­ing the issue. Kudos to you Katelyn. I don’t know how many times I have seen a girl walk­ing around cam­pus dressed inap­pro­pri­ately. Yes, it is their choice, but it’s about time you look in the mir­ror before you go to class for the day. Thanks for the great read and won­der­ful insight!