Born This Way

Gay marriage should not be controversial

by Published: Feb 16, 2012

The azure sky is host to a sun-filled spring day. Lilacs lend their scent to the air. The clouds dis­ap­pear in what seems like divine inter­ven­tion for this day. This is the per­fect day you’ve been wait­ing for since you met. As you face one another you say your vows, promis­ing to love one another for­ever. It’s the hap­pi­est moment in your life– unless you’re gay.

Gay mar­riage is no doubt one of the hot-potatoes being passed around the polit­i­cal table this year. Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Iowa, Vermont and New York all have legal­ized mar­riage between same-sex cou­ples. States such as Michigan chose to ban it. Some took it as far as adding the ban to their state Constitution as an amend­ment. Michigan’s Constitutional amend­ment was most recently estab­lished in 1996 in the wave of the “Defense Of Marriage Act” (DOMA) wherein the gov­ern­ment estab­lished the def­i­n­i­tion of mar­riage as “one man and one woman.”

It was sad back in ’96, and it’s sad now. We should have pro­gressed past this point as a soci­ety, yet we let a lit­tle thing called “reli­gion” creep in like a vora­cious climb­ing weed and choke out com­mon sense. If you are mar­ried I want for you to look at your spouse–right now. Really look at them; would you love them any less if they were the same sex? Have you ever been divorced? Have you ever cheated on your spouse? If you said yes, you must not be com­mit­ted enough to the vows you took at the altar; you are a dis­grace to the sanc­tity of marriage.

What we are fail­ing to see is that “reli­gion” is an opin­ion. Just like this arti­cle, it is nei­ther right nor wrong. It is a per­sonal belief or sys­tem of beliefs that varies from per­son to per­son. Opinions are not fact. Opinions are made to per­suade the pub­lic. Facts, how­ever, speak volumes.

Fact: Hundreds (thou­sands if you count each indi­vid­ual insect species) of other species other than Homo sapi­ens have been doc­u­mented cop­u­lat­ing with the same sex. Take for exam­ple the com­mon drag­on­fly: Up to 80 per­cent of males were observed to have dam­aged cloacae.

Fact: There is not one species on the known earth that does not have a homo­sex­ual ele­ment to it. Unlike us humans, our ani­mal friends don’t have to make up a “god” or “reli­gion” to tell them it’s wrong. They do what’s right to them nat­u­rally. They were born that way.

It should be easy logic then to par­al­lel that if every­one has a right to love, every­one has a right to marry the one they love. As an American cit­i­zen, I don’t like hav­ing my rights taken away. I don’t like hav­ing some­one else’s opin­ion forced on me through law. Making some­thing ille­gal because it crosses someone’s reli­gious opin­ion isn’t fair to those who don’t agree, nor is it prac­ti­cal. There are bet­ter things to do.

If we are going to keep gay mar­riage ille­gal to sat­isfy xeno­pho­bic big­ots, then we should out­law cheese­burg­ers and bacon to sat­isfy the beliefs of other reli­gions that out­law pork and beef prod­ucts. The worst pos­si­ble out­come from legal­iz­ing gay mar­riage is that gays will marry and live hap­pily ever after–or at least pre­tend like they do for the neigh­bors, just like the
rest of us.

  • Tim

    Every day I become angrier and more resent­ful towards the reli­gious lead­ers (and lead­ers who are reli­gious) who are attempt­ing to cre­ate leg­is­la­tion out of reli­gion. Even worse, it’s not Biblical law, it’s dog­matic law they want to turn into prac­ti­cal law. I’ve always argued that this coun­try is far more oppres­sive to non-believers than most real­ize. Sure it isn’t exactly Sharia law, but it’s mad­den­ing that choices are being made for me and my coun­try with only the inter­ests of reli­gion in mind, and not what is truly best for society.  

  • Lysander Spooner

    This is cer­tainly a free­dom issue. Americans should be “free” to marry whomever they choose. Done. 

  • Claire Higgins

    I agree that every­one has the right to be mar­ried, but just because some­thing occurs in nature doesn’t mean humans should nec­es­sar­ily emu­late it.… oth­er­wise we would all be eat­ing our young ;p

    • Guest

       Where in nature do humans eat there young?

      • Claire Higgins

        That’s just it– we don’t. Just because ani­mals do some­thing doesn’t mean it’s accept­able behav­iour for humans (ie, lick­ing our butts or eating/ aban­don­ing our young)